Forgiveness & Reconcilliation

Forgiveness and Reconcilliation
I think it was Phillip Yancey that said that a lack of forgiveness is a lack of faith in God. I agree. There is a difference in forgiveness and reconcilliation. You can forgive but how do you reconcille without repentance on the side of the person who willingly hurt you. To try to reconcile with a person without any remorse or sorrow on their part is only an invitation to be hurt again and again and again. Remorse is part of the process of recognizing a wrong and when there is no act of repentance, there is no recognition of a wrong. The most painful people in my life are those that may feel remorse but are never driven to any act of repentance, instead they blame me for being hurt from their noble actions. In the end, there is no sorrow, only the heaping of blame on me for not understanding. It stops being a relationship as the contant avoidance of repentance and reconcilliation and more hurtful acts destroys the intimacy, trust, and desire to be around each other. The idea of contact becomes less and less appealing as it only results in my pain and then avoidance, blame on me. Luckily I have people around who aren’t like this and those are the people I come to depend on and love me deeply. Jordon and many excellent friends are those precious people.